Shelly LaVigne

Hello. I'm Shelly LaVigne. I have developed a groundbreaking biologically based framework designed to decode the complex dynamics of love and relationships.

I delve into the heart of human relationships offering a fresh perspective that goes beyond conventional love advice, cliches, platitudes, and star signs.

The Big Idea: This framework will show you how to navigate the game of love with greater clarity and precision. By identifying your position and the positions of others, you can navigate love with certainty.

Main Points:

1. Self-Awareness in Love: Understanding your position in the game of love—North, East, South, or West—is crucial for self-awareness in relationships. Each position has distinct characteristics. Recognizing these traits can help you understand your own behavior and reactions in love.

2. Empathy and Communication: Recognizing and understanding the positions of others is key to enhancing empathy and improving communication. By knowing the position of your partner, you can tailor your communication style to better suit their needs.

3. Biological Compatibility: The 4Cross Love Framework explores the science behind the four positions and their impact on human interaction. Our biological wiring influences our preferences and behaviors in relationships.

4. Conflict Resolution: One of the significant benefits of the 4Cross Love Framework is its effectiveness in conflict resolution.

5. Relationship Dynamics: The dynamics between different positions affect relationships dynamics. Understanding these intricacies leads to more satisfying and enduring relationships.

Then with the most precise and transformative tool known to navigate the game of love, 'The 4Cross Love Checklist,' I will show you exactly how to check off each essential element you need to find true love and keep it.

Here's what will be uncovered with the 4Cross Love Framework:

• Survival Concerns Unveiled: Each position has a survival concern that kicks into gear under stress.
• Tailored Communication Strategies: Understand how each position communicates and what they crave in conversations.
• Conflict Navigation Tools: Guides that show how each position reacts under pressure.
• Relationship Dynamics Decoded: Insights into how different positions mesh or clash.

The 4Cross Love Framework teaches you to thrive in love. By understanding the biological roots of our behaviors and reactions, we move beyond the usual missteps and miscommunications.

Then we dive into the 4Cross Love Checklist to transform your love life from bewildering to enchanting. In this book I go into detail about how to reveal the 6 elements you must have in order to find true love or love the one your with in a whole new way:

The 4Cross Love Checklist includes six key steps:

1- Awareness:

• Self-awareness: Understanding your own values, strengths, weaknesses, and emotional needs.
• Positional awareness: Recognizing your own position and others within the 4Cross Framework and understanding its implications.

2- Attraction:

• Physical: Reflecting on physical attraction and chemistry.
• Emotional: Considering the depth of emotional connection and support.
• Intellectual: Assessing the intellectual stimulation and engagement in the relationship.
• Positional: Evaluating positional attraction and how well your partner’s position aligns with or complements your own.

3- Interests: Reviewing shared interests and activities to ensure companionship and mutual enjoyment.

4- Values: Ensuring alignment of core values and long-term goals.

5- Effective Communication: Evaluating how clear, empathetic, and respectful dialogue is to resolve conflicts, express needs, and deepen connections.

6- Choice: Making an informed decision by synthesizing all the information gathered through the previous steps.

The book ‘Love Is NOT Blind-You Are’ is going to reveal the truth about love!

Because let's face it, nobody wants to keep flying blindly into a brick wall of love?